I think that fun and recreation are often demoted to last place on the wellness priority list. Or at least on my wellness priority list.
I know this has something to do with my Type A personality, the fact that I’m a first-born child, yada, yada, yada. It’s taken me years to get out of the busyness-is-next-to-godliness mentality and just let myself relax.
It’s amazing what happens when I make fun and recreation a priority. My spirits literally lighten, I’m happier, and I face challenges and problems with more energy and positivity. This doesn’t last forever, but it does last a day or two afterward, and gives me pleasant memories to drift back to after that.
For people like me, we have to be intentional about planning fun stuff. If it’s not planned, it’s all too easy to let the time get eaten up by work and or nibbled away by pesky time-stealers.
I don’t mean super-anal calendaring. I’m not advocating scheduling afternoon coffee with a friend six weeks out. But it may mean getting it on the calendar the morning of, or a day or two before.
Having fun is usually more fun with someone. If you’re an introvert, this isn’t necessarily the case, but even introverts need to connect with people and do fun things. So if I was going to give advice on this wellness topic, I’d say be intentional about finding someone to have fun with.
It doesn’t have to be the perfect person. I’m starting to do things with an acquaintance. I think there’s a good chance he’ll become a better friend, but honestly, the jury is still out on that one. But in the meantime, he’s someone who is similar to me in life station and interests. So we’re starting to do some things, and I’m just going to see how it develops. Maybe he’ll become my go-to when I just want to get out and do something fun.
What’s fun for me may not be fun for you, and vice versa. Don’t let other peoples’ opinion of what constitutes fun define it for you. Want to climb an 11,000-foot mountain? Be my guest. Want to bungee jump over a 500-foot ravine? Knock yourself out. I’ll stick with surfing and ultimate Frisbee.
That’s what does it for me.
Maybe your fun isn’t active. Maybe it’s going to a movie. Or hanging with someone at a funky coffee bar. Or getting a Redbox and sinking into the sofa at home with popcorn. Or planting things. Or making Crème Brulee.
Or writing a real letter. Or playing poker. Or going to an investor’s club.
All I’m saying is: add fun into your life if it isn’t there. I’m pretty sure that doing recreational things releases endorphins in the brain or feel-good microbes into the blood-stream or something.
It needs to be there or we do shrivel up.